Apr
18
Sex and the Boomers
Posted by 4T at 08:13 | Filed In Health After 40, Life After 40, Mentality After 40, Social After 40
Women reach their sexual peak at age 35, men at age 18. What is wrong with this picture? And what does this say for those over 40? There are some issues for us old timers, but nothing that we can’t handle. There are a lot of pluses too that can make sex more pleasurable in our older years.
By midlife, you should know your body and what is pleasurable. Hopefully you have shed your sexual inhibitions and gained some sexual confidence which should result in a pleasant experience for both of you. Once past menopause women and their partners no longer have to worry about pregnancy and are able to relax. Older couples who are retired have more opportunity and energy for lovemaking. There are some issues that need attention though as couples age.
Erectile dysfunction is not caused by age itself but by diminishing hormone levels. Men now need more stimulation and if they would just allow the women to do a little more work and relax they may enjoy an extended foreplay as opposed to rushing it. Males timing may actually match their females partners now since it has always taken the female a longer time to become aroused. Physical factors can play a large role in female satisfaction as she ages. Hormonal changes at menopause can affect a womans sexual response. Low estrogen levels can result in vaginal dryness, causing discomfort. Many over the counter lubricants can alleviate this problem, some even eliminate them for days.
Sex as we age may call for a series of adjustments, and that doesn’t mean running off with a 20 something, but if we communicate our desires things will work out. Understanding that changes are inevitable and normal can help to make sex as great as ever, albeit not as often.
